Dear True Self,
I used to be so confused about my life: was I wasting my life working, then coming home, watching TV and crafting? Was my work worthwhile? Was crafting worthwhile? What was the point of my life? And I didn’t really have friends that I hung out with outside of work, and felt like this reflected on my friendable-ness (def: the ability to make friendships). I used to worry that I didn’t know my purpose in life, and would drive myself crazy thinking about how I had to find it, even though I didn’t have any particular desire I wanted to fulfill. Eventually I turned towards spiritual teaching, and my mindset changed a lot. Over the last few years, I’ve found that even though many elements in my life haven’t changed (I still work the same job, craft when I come home, and haven’t gone out with friends for a long time), but my questions about self worth and purpose has died down. I find myself really enjoying my day-to-day life, and just get involved in whatever projects or activities that peak my interest at the time.
But every once in a while, I read something, or watch a video, that speaks to how the whole universe is contained within yourself, or how some people can access a different dimension of life. Like Buddha, Jesus, Osho… the list goes on. Then I wonder for a short period: am I just living the good life? Is it enough to notice what emotions or reactions occur when external situations happen, and see how I’m creating my own experience of the situation? Or is there more to this whole “universe contained within yourself” and I’m not even looking in the right direction to ever access these other dimensions? And what are these dimensions anyway?
And after having thought them, I go back to a quieter mind, which questions less and just makes the best of what happens during my day.
Hoping It’s Enough
Dear HIE,
Do not underestimate the value of living a good life. Is this not what every single life form on the planet is trying to do? It is a huge blessing.
It sounds like you have found a way to be content with whatever life brings you. You have not changed the external situation much, but inside, you are practicing being fine just the way things are.
Still, you are speaking to a longing within you for something else. “Is this all there is to life” you ask, merely managing the various dramas that come from our work and relationships?
This longing is life. Do not mistake it for anything less. Life is always pushing past what is comfortable, trying to transform into the next possibility. No matter how content you become with the external situation, still something will always long for more within you.
You have learned a very valuable lesson, in that no matter how much you change the external situation, it won’t matter unless you turn inward. And you are doing it! It is only because of this that you feel content, even after bouts of confusion or questioning.
Continue to enjoy your life. You are not in some trap of thinking “If only I get ____ , then I will be happy!” You are happy of your own nature. You are establishing simply being. Because of this foundation, whatever happens, you make growth out of it. Most people do not learn this their whole lives.
Many people think that first they must figure out the external. First, I will get financially stable. Then, I will get a stable relationship. Then, I will get some stable skills. On and on like this they keep going, all in the pursuit of simply being able to be here and be happy.
You must establish yourself first. Being comes before activity, not the other way around. Activity is a means for you to learn how to simply be. This is all there is to life: Can you simply be here, and whether something happens or nothing happens, are you perfectly fine?
If you can keep on the trajectory you are on, then nothing can be denied to you. All those questions about accessing different dimensions of experience…that will only come when you are receptive. If you are simply able to sit here and accept and use whatever life brings you, for sure you are receptive.
If something like that is to happen for you, just keep doing what you are doing. Without thought of reward or experiencing something different, simply just be here, content with what life brings.
So don’t worry about all these stories of different dimensions of life. That is all they are to you anyway, stories. Right now, if I tell you that the true nature of the universe is 12 god with 23 heads each smiling unimaginable colored beams of eternal radiance on you, what use is that to you?
How will any of that help you if you cannot experience it? What you know for sure right now is that the path you are on is working – your life is going well, and from an inside out way. Just keep that spirit alive, nurture it. Live your best life!
The whole idea that your experience of life can happen externally is a fallacy. Your experience is only happening within you. Forget what happens outside. Manage it however you wish, but paying attention to how you respond is everything. How you respond to life determines your experience of life, doesn’t it?
So when it comes down to it, the only direction you can ever go to access anything is within. Even if you do something external, like a prayer or a practice or whatever, the feelings and experiences only happen within you. Never forget this: Your entire life is only happening within you.
Take a look at who you were before – repetitively living life, not seeing any meaning to it all. Take a look at who you are now – same repetitive stuff, only now you are suddenly okay with it! Clearly, it was you who changed, not the outside. Once in a while, you long for something deeper, that is good. It means you won’t stagnate.
The point of your life is just to be. You are here, be whichever way you wish. Establish who you are, like a rich soil. Then you will see, things will grow when it is their time. That is all that is meant by these different dimensions of experience.
Don’t concern yourself with how to force a flower to grow. Just continue to establish the best conditions for growth. Establish yourself. Simply be okay, no matter what. You are on the right track.
With gratitude,
Your True Self
Click here if you have a question to ask Your True Self. All questions are anonymous and may be published unless specified otherwise.